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Faking It

The Lies Women Tell about Sex--And the Truths They Reveal

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By Lux Alptraum

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From Out of the Binders co-founder Lux Alptraum, a controversial look at women, sex, and lying — why myths about women’s deceit persist, how they came to be, and ultimately why we must trust women

When we talk about sex, we talk about women as mysterious, deceptive, and – above all – untrustworthy. Women lie about orgasms. Women lie about being virgins. Women lie about who got them pregnant, about whether they were raped, about how many people they’ve had sex with and what sort of experiences they’ve had – the list goes on and on. Over and over we’re reminded that, on dates, in relationships, and especially in the bedroom, women just aren’t telling the truth. But where does this assumption come from? Are women actually lying about sex, or does society just think we are?

In Faking It, Lux Alptraum tackles the topic of seemingly dishonest women; investigating whether women actually lie, and what social situations might encourage deceptions both great and small. Using her experience as a sex educator and former CEO of Fleshbot (the foremost blog on sexuality), first-hand interviews with sexuality experts and everyday women, Alptraum raises important questions: are lying women all that common – or is the idea of the dishonest woman a symptom of male paranoia? Are women trying to please men, or just avoid their anger? And what affect does all this dishonesty – whether real or imagined – have on women’s self-images, social status, and safety?

Through it all, Alptraum posits that even if women are lying, we’re doing it for very good reason — to protect ourselves (“My boyfriend will be here any minute,” to a creep who won’t go away, for one), and in situations where society has given us no other choice.

On Sale
Nov 6, 2018
Page Count
256 pages
Publisher
Seal Press
ISBN-13
9781580057660

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Lux Alptraum

About the Author

A writer, sex educator, and consultant, Lux Alptraum’s work has been featured on Fusion, The Verge, The Guardian, Cosmopolitan, Fast Company, and Refinery29. Well-connected and savvy about promotion, she has appeared on numerous radio and television shows and has spoken at SXSW and various universities and colleges. She is also a cofounder of the nonprofit behind the annual professional development conference BinderCon, held annually New York and Los Angeles

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