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Never Date a Broke Dude

The Financial Freedom Playbook

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By Pattie Ehsaei

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$20.99 CAD

Choosing a partner is the biggest financial decision we make. And yet, not a single book addresses that decision. Enter Pattie Ehsaei, the lawyer turned banker with the stories—and money advice—to pave your path to financial freedom forever.

Never Date a Broke Dude opens with the definition of a broke dude, and it’s not about gender or how much money they make. A broke dude is someone who is unable or unwilling to match their partner in ambition, drive, commitment, or work ethic

In her real-world, big-sister tone, licensed attorney, finance expert, and TikTok powerhouse Pattie Ehsaei shares tales that range from trapped trophy wives and the mistakes she’s dated to ayahuasca revelations and even murder-suicide, while parsing each life lesson into simple, actionable advice on how to set our own money straight, and keep it that way, from now through the end of time.
 
This four-part playbook starts with the basic rules of romance and finance, then climbs from Money, through Work, to Power (or, Self-Worth), offering
  • a five account system to control your cash flow, pay off debt, fix your credit, and start investing with just $100;
  • realistic career advice on how to dress well (and yes, fund your own wardrobe), work with confidence, choose the right retirement account, and negotiate raises; and
  • rules to navigate finances in dating and long term-relationships—like who pays the bill, how to prevent and/or exit financial abuse, what can and can’t be in a pre-nup, options for children’s savings accounts, and more.

In the end, this book meets so many of us exactly where we are. We’re not trying to be trillionaires, and we don’t need a yacht or a man with a yacht. What we need is the lifelong safety net of financial freedom.

Never Date a Broke Dude is an entertaining, seamless, yet game-changing read, a manual designed for reality: it’s How to Date Men When You Hate Men, but make sure your money stays yours.

On Sale
May 6, 2025
Page Count
288 pages
Publisher
Hachette Go
ISBN-13
9780306836213

Pattie Ehsaei

About the Author

Best known on TikTok as the “duchessofdecorum,” Pattie Ehsaei uses her platform to teach financial literacy and female empowerment. A lawyer by trade, she has spent the last 20 years in a multi-faceted career focused on finance. From relationship management, business development, and investment banking to raising capital from sovereign wealth funds in private equity, Pattie has seen all sides of the industry. When the pandemic hit, she created her TikTok account as a way to provide education, advice, and techniques to help young women navigate their way through romance and finance. Her no-nonsense approach peppered with levity and real takeaways has garnered an following of nearly 1 million, and she’s currently based in Los Angeles, California.

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